Monday, May 16, 2016

Fixing the little things . . .

Here's a great article on the psoas muscles and how to retrain them to support the low back and pelvis alignment.

Settling the Psoas Muscles

Often it is important not to take stress personally. Look at the small picture before the big picture.
I am tired and hungry can be satisfied with a little food and some rest rather than quitting the job, divorcing the partner, and moving to Montana.

Fix the little things first. 

Once they are consistently cared for, the big things take care of themselves. 

Sometimes when we are stressed, we imagine that we've done something wrong. We've made a mistake. We internalize the chaos of the day or the conflict and we identify with the symptoms. I'm tired becomes I am weak or I'm useless. I've worked hard today becomes I don't do enough.

However, the symptoms we are calling stress are most often physical not psychological. The body needs care and will act out when ignored.

Next time you are stressed, check

  • Have I had enough to eat? Particularly vegetables? Fibre. Protein.
  • Have I slept well?
  • Am I hydrated?
  • Am I breathing? Breathe now to check. 
  • Am I holding on to tension in my body unknowingly? 
If you are consistently aware of the following symptoms, irritability, can't make decisions, tense and tight muscles, digestive issues, can't make sense of what you are reading, you are not 
SICK. You are simply experiencing a key mechanism in the body that saves the brain. 

It's called SWITCHING. The brain switches off under stress. No brain, no gain. 

With no brain, the organs are not getting the nutrition or the water you are feeding it. Everything is shut down. 

This mechanism is designed to be flexible, adapting to stress indicators within the body, but also within the environment. 

But it is a catch 22. When the body is switched off, it cannot interpret the environment with ease or clarity so the body is switched off and fear becomes the main interpreter of reality. 

You see fear, not the trees. You see fear, not your children. 

This switching mechanism can get stuck. If at work or school, we are run by an external clock: the bell, the boss, set times for breaks etc, we are not following our unique body rhythms. 

The brain's switching mechanism (a matrix of meridian and cortical connections) gets stuck. 

Ignoring the need for food, water, sleep, puts the brain on OFF. If the switching mechanism is set too high, you hit the wall but you keep going. 

There is an apocalypse outside and you think, is that the door bell? 

If the switching mechanism is set too low, someone rings the doorbell and your body thinks, Is that the apocalypse? 

You want the most natural reaction to what is presented to you. 

You want the brain switched on and you want to know when it switches off and take steps to switch it back on. 

You can do so in a number of ways. Eat a little, rest, drink water, breathe. 

You can tap out your cortices. 

You can take the bodytalk Access class (next one I'm teaching is May 28th, 2016) to learn to reset this mechanism yourself. 

The important thing is to know that these symptoms listed above are not YOUR PERSONALITY. These irritable traits are not something you wish to covet as the more the brain is turned off, the more time your essential energies and vital organs struggle. If you hit a wall, stop. You are hurting yourself at the cellular level. The essential level for renewal. 

Monday, May 2, 2016


Learning to respond to stress resourcefully means

(This is my light reading these days. LOL)


I like to think about that. 

Cultivating confidence. 
Emergent human capacities!

If we do not actively engage in befriending stress, the body chooses how to cope. 

The body copes well. 

But coping is not living. 

Coping for a body could look like a human being strapped into a chair taking shallow breaths, drooling into a bib. 

(I have a few bibs around the house) 

The body is happy. The body is breathing. 

The body does not evaluate quality of life. 


The coping mechanisms only devolve into primitive fight/flight/freeze behaviours that, while periodically useful, become destructive when habitual or chronic. 

Imagine CULTIVATING confidence


We can actively calm the vagus nerve. We can work with our microbiome that impacts how we feel. We can mindfully relax and play. We can practice bodytalk access daily. Have forest baths. Create community. Sit on your stoop. Bake extra and share. Turn up the music. Dance. 

Because trauma is somatic (within the body), somatic practices are ideal. Use the breath while writing. Use the breath on the bodytalk table, while dancing, while typing, while speaking, while eating. 

Re-train the body that even when stress is present, a calm state offers myriad possibilities; whereas, a stressed state contracts, deflates, destroys. 


Remember our microbiome (the healthy microbes that help us digest, create vitamins, protect us) thrives on fibre, diverse foods, prebiotics (keffir, kimchi, sauerkraut) and probiotics (more friends for the party). 

Support the microbiome. Support yourself. 

Notice how you feel/think after you eat. 
Our thoughts can get away on us but a fun exercise is to eat an unhealthy snack and notice our thoughts. Eat a healthy snack and notice our thoughts. 
Exercise, notice the thoughts. 
Do not exercise, notice the thoughts. 


Eating well can be simple. 

How much of your day could you devote to calm? 

There is a website that helps: 

I love that: 

Take a breath right now. What is going on around you? 

I’m in my office. I can hear the chimes. It is early in the day, blue sky, large shadows, more chimes, light wind, neighbour’s tree moving shadows on his roof, husband moving in the kitchen, a door opening. 

Take another breath. 

Tap out your cortices: 

Notice your thoughts. 
Let them move on by. 
Roast some veggies. 
Pass them around. 

When calm, make decisions. Speak. Create. Problem solve. 

When stressed? Breathe. Feed the microbiome. Tap out your cortices. Breathe some more. Re-frame the stress. 

My brother doesn’t respect my opinions. 
I don’t need my brother’s approval. 
My staff continue to disregard the training. 
Talk to them. What is going on? It is their burden, not your burden. 
My life’s purpose is elsewhere. I can’t work here for thirty years. Look around the work place. Where might you find your purpose here right now, for now. Job changes can happen gradually or spontaneously. 

Calm cultivates detachment. 
Detachment is natural. 
Natural is optimal. 
Natural offers possibility. 

What is possible for you when you cultivate calm? 

If you’d like more bodytalk in your life, 

I am teaching a bodytalk access class, Saturday, May 28th, 10 a.m to 5 p.m. 

Six hours of instruction for a lifetime of calm. The fee is $150.00. 

You receive a day of bodytalk and 6 techniques to practice at home, with your children, clients, friends, pets and plants. 

You take home a gorgeous, colour manual with all the steps laid out clearly. 

Registration is limited. If you would like to register, click on this link: 

I’ve got a new website up, thanks to a gift from my daughter and I’ve started a blog. 

Have a look when you have time. 

Rest in the bareness of thoughts, feelings and perceptions as they occur. 

Act only from calm.